Grief, hits someone every minute of everyday. There is no escaping it, as life and death are part of our existence. As much as we wish we could rewind our life to change the event of a loved one dying, we are left to cope with our heartbreak.
Grief is a natural process for releasing the pain we feel. This video is what I discovered during my journey of the dark night of the soul.
For many years now I have coined the saying “Invisible Relationships” and now you see this phrase all over the web. This was a phrase I had used throughout my writing and speaking career, which became highlighted after my son crossed over. The time is right for us to awaken, the other-side is calling, like a band of angels all wanting to help us. I can feel them and I can hear them. I actually had been hearing them for years but I wavered sometimes in trusting my own intuition. I learned early as a child all the way through adulthood that many people do not believe. When my son crossed-over, I finally trusted what I always new, that a soul never dies. The invisible is more powerful and real than the visible. Seriously, our world has grown into the mess it is in because we forgot this truth. We closed our minds, ears, eyes, and hearts to the invisible relationship of everything.
The invisible souls are guiding me to bring this news to you.
Angels, your loved ones are here to help you. Even if you are one of the lucky ones who have never experienced a loved one crossing over, this still can be helpful information for you. If you are going through loss from a job or home, these steps can still benefit you as well.
You can help others in grief by simply listening; we all long for a listening ear. Forget trying to fix their emotions and don’t take any anger personally. Simply allow them to grieve.
Before sunlight can shine through a window, the blind must be raised. American Proverb
Here are some helpful suggestions.
1) Whenever I lose something I always say, “Nothing is ever lost” over and over. Then when I least expect it, the missing item suddenly appears, or a lost job turns into a new contact. When my son crossed over I immediately started saying, “Nothing is ever lost”.
What I discovered was: nothing ever dies. It only transforms. Pay attention for signs.
There is not one family in the whole world that does not have a family story of someone who had an experience with an invisible soul. These experiences are real and true. Some are big and some are small, like a breeze blowing bye. We just haven’t been used to sharing our stories, often because people were afraid that others would think they were crazy. You’re not crazy. These experiences can come in dreams, feelings, shooting stars, or signs in nature just to name a few. When you are thinking of your loved one, and you sense, feel, or see a sign, trust it. There is no coincidence.
Note: Some worry if they try to connect with the other side they will hold their loved ones back. We are not that powerful or do we have that much control. Plus to truly love is to have no attachments.
2) Write down your stories before you forget. When you are missing your loved one read it. This is the beginning of building your new invisible relationship.
If you are going through the loss of job or home, then write down your feelings and start connecting to God. Ask for help.
There is a real art for writing your story to improve your life.
3) Music is a portal for connecting with the Invisible, so sing or play music. Light candles or make an alter. Be creative. Creativity is healing for the soul. Creativity leads you to new answers.
4) We are connected to our loved ones even after they leave their physical bodies, so how you are doing determines how they are doing. If you desire your loved one to be okay then you must take steps to be okay as well. It is not always easy. Have compassion for yourself. Journal writing is very helpful. You can write your loved one letters. You can ask them questions and see what answers you receive. Or you can just write down your feelings. The helpful lesson is: you have to feel in order to heal.
5) It takes time to adjust to loss so allow yourself time to mourn. Get a massage or walk in nature. Pamper yourself. If you’re angry it is okay to yell at God, because God understands. No one has bigger shoulders to handle your
anguish than God. It is okay to feel. Again, you have to feel in order to heal.
6) Tears are a way for your body to release its pain. Cry as much as you want. I like to think of every teardrop as a symbol of my love. Remember the loss of a home, job, or personal identity what you thought yourself to be has just as much right to grieve.
7) There are no rules as everyone is different. Everyone goes through loss at one point in his or her life. Everyone deals with loss in his or her own way and each loss is from another. Just as each relationship you have with others is different.
If you feel stuck, or your mind cannot stop thinking negative thoughts, hire a Planetary Coach™ to help guide you through the process of loss.
9) On the holidays think of ways for your loved one to be remembered like putting their shirt over a chair at the table.
10) Make an intention of how you would like to be in two months from now, six months from now and a year from now and five years from now.
11) Meditation is extremely valuable. I am so fortunate to have discovered easy mediation techniques from being a biofeedback therapist. Meditations can be like a fast track to a spiritual awakening.
12) “Ishi, (the last hunter-gather Native American) was sure he knew the cause of our discontent. It stemmed from an excessive amount of indoor time. ‘It is not a man’s nature to be too much indoors.’” - Theodora Kroeber
Listen outside yourself, beyond loss, personal struggles, or grief and awaken your passion. See a need, hear a calling, take an action and you will soar above any crisis. This takes courage and often times a coach. This is love in action. Everyone has the ability to transcend his or her monkey mind and overcome any kind of loss, or set back.
Can you think of two or three times in the past week that you rose above a difficulty and looked beyond your uneasiness or loss? You stepped outside your “comfort zone” and did something, which made a difference. These are the moments, which make you feel good. When you help another you help yourself.
Loss is not easy. I understand the dark night of the soul and please know I send you compassion.
In the medicine cards snake represents change, transformation, shedding our skin for something new. Like the caterpillar in the cocoon, breaking free to fly.
We have spent more than hundred years proving how thought influences the body, water and our world. Strange as it may seem change has been a slow process. Many times when there was a perfect golden opportunity to increase the awareness of change, we panic.
We panic because we are uncertain, or afraid. Fear manifest in so many ways. There is fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of loss, fear of being found out, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of the past, fear of the future, fear of not being good enough, fear of sickness, fear of survival, fear of environment, and fear of trusting. Just like when company comes over and you quickly do some house cleaning, there might be a place you throw all the stuff you don’t know what to do with. Then when you have time to go though it, you have to make the choice to simply let go of some items. Or, you end up keeping everything. Old baggage can be very annoying. Those things which no longer serve you, but there is a gut feeling that they may someday.
If you are having trouble towards moving forward, getting rid of stuff that no longer serves you, then ask yourself these questions. Do you wish you lived in the past? Do you think life is moving to fast?
Are you having panic attacks? Do you feel uncertain about the future? Do you finish projects? Do you find you have reoccurring thoughts that make you sad, mad, or feel bad? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are most likely wadding in the closet of resisting change. You might feel stuck, overwhelmed instead of living fully in the present and the future might not seem too bright.
If you multiplied these kinds of feelings by 100,000 people thinking and feeling the same kind of limitations, what do you think might happen? There could be a huge resistance toward moving into the future, a fear so big, that people dumb- down, and need to controlled like leading sheep to water.
Yet the snake beckons us to shed, let-go and become free. Embracing change is good medicine, which is why we see the snake is woven in symbols for behavioral and medical practices.
I encourage you to take out a pen and drawl a snake. Color it, befriend it and even ask the snake what is one thing I am willing to let go of right now? Listen notice what your minds tells you. Then ask what is something that is no longer serving me? Explore, play and with your pen in hand, drawl what you would be like if you let go and were set free of any fear. What about the world what would it look like? Playing gives us information and profound insights to ourselves.
Once a train gets rolling down the track it is pretty hard to stop it. Yet anything is possible, when there is a will there is a way. Awaking ones will, is just a matter of desire, faith, prayer, action and sometimes hiring a coach. Planetary Coaching is a new model of coaching, using alchemical hypnotherapy, transpersonal therapy, biofeedback, quantum transformation, vibrational chakra clearing, mixed with the latest cutting age mind/body/spirit improvement techniques with a heart centered guide. http://www.planetarycoach.com
When acts of terror happen we ask why? Why would anyone want to do such violent acts? It is painful to just think of people suffering, especially if you have suffered in loss before for then you know how bad it hurts to lose a love one.
These times call us to listen to the still voice inside.
Is there light in darkness,
darkness in light.
Light speak to me
tell me your wisdom.
Do I need to see
the dark side of life?
Is there light in the darkness
darkness in the light.
Come wisdom of my being,
show me that dark leads to light.
A dark cloud moves aside
I feel rays beaming,
warming my insides.
Awaken me inner wisdom
let my soul ignite.
Sing with the ripples
that move and kiss the shore.
There is light in the darkness
sing and there will be more.
A bird starts singing to my heart,
joining me in delight.
Affirming that we are truly one.
Just the thought casts millions
of light beams in the clouds near by.
There is light casting
on every ripple in sight
Sparkle fairies are coming to life.
There is light in the darkness
Darkness leads to light
Wisdom is the message
that guides us home to light.
“Wisdom within” is always within us. It might not be a loud voice speaking from above, but it can be a feeling, vibration, intuition or a whisper. This inner voice speaks to us through our senses, if we ask and even if we don’t ask. Inner wisdom is always talking if we pay attention. Creative by nature inner wisdom loves to express.
If you allow yourself to play with the arts in your soul, you’ll experience a wisdom you might otherwise not know. There are no ifs or should’s when you practice this art. It is gift, a friend, a counselor and a love. The magic in you turned inside out.
Dear Sisters around the world, Happy International Women’s Day. May you celebrate your beauty, wisdom, intuition, and femininity today and every day. You are more, much much more than you think you are.
Joanna Rodgers Macy wrote in her book , Despair and Personal Power in the Nuclear Age, “Every system – be it a cell, a tree, a mind, -is like a transformer, changing the very stuff that flows through it”
We can transform the fear of violence GUNS into the power of love. Some of the world’s greatest teachers, like Jesus, Buddha, Mother Teresa Dali Lama, and many more all have one common belief — the belief in the power of love.
Women are the birth keepers, may we join together all round the world in birthing more love into the world.
Starting with looking in the mirror and loving ourselves, and yes- filling our love cup so we may give to others.
I send you love, Coach Louise
If you educate a boy, you educate an individual–if you educate a girl, you educate a community. ~ African proverb
There is hope, life is getting better each day, people are waking up. This was the talk of late 2012.
Is the hype of a New Era already fading? The marketing language of a New Era seems to sounds just like the language of many years before. Such as: Set your goals for the year, lose weight, stop smoking, get more clients and make more money!
If there was a new language what would it be?
Perhaps… “Together we can dream a new world into reality.” Deepak Chopra
Are we dreaming of something new? Have all the people who prayed, hoped and believed 2013 was a golden age, our “saving Grace” from all the many world problems given up? Or are they doing something different? My Planetary Coaching Academy teaches that our “saving grace” for a more loving, caring world is simply being more loving. Love is a powerful force when practiced faithfully. My Academy teaches a new language for overcoming our fears in the world. Just imagine how powerful this could be if we used one of psychologies greatest techniques: empowering verses disempowering. Disempowering people has been ruling our world with FEAR… fear of all most everything. Thinking that control of others is the greatest achievement. Far from the truth, as we have discovered control only leads to economic problems and societial unrest. Empowerment leads to prosperity, new inventions, growth and happiness. Instead of “You cannot expect old dogs to learn new tricks”, lets “expect a miracle”.
Change is up to us. How we market our business, how we interact with each other, how we talk about the problems of the earth is setting an intention a vibrational force.
Do you know the language of love toward the government, toward corporate America, toward all the many things which frustrate and scare us? If you do know, what does the new language sound like?
If you are wondering: how do you stop the same old marketing language and change to something new, here are some tips from the Planetary Coaching Academy?
1. Does it come from love?
2. Is it serving humanity?
3. Does it empower the reader, or listener?
“The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.” Deepak Chopra
You are an amazing person, a reflection of the Divine. When your light shines you attract more business, love and happiness into your life. There is nothing in the world that cannot use more love. We have discovered that everything around us can hear, feel and respond to love.
Starting today, join the new language of empowerment. When you are wanting something, hoping to sell something, desiring to change something, look at it through the eyes of love. Speak the language of love, see with the eyes of love, hear with the ears of love, and send from your soul thoughts and prayers of love. After practicing for a day notice how you feel. Observe how this was for you, if this was easy or hard? Then begin again on the next day. Notice if it made a difference, or if others challenged you?
“The most powerful forms of giving are non-material. Even the thought of giving, the thought of blessing, or a simple prayer has the power to affect others.” Deepak Chopra
Change happens when we pay attention to what we are doing. You are smart, with wisdom to know and understand all that you observe. You are magnificent, beautiful, and compassionate. Let your light shine, revealing the beauty in you. Let your love, love, as you deserve love and abundance.
I believe in you, I see the beauty in you and I send you love, Coach Louise Rouse, copy write 2013
CEO Planetarycoach.com
The quotes from Deepak Chopra are from his book The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success. I highly recommend reading this book.
If you are interested in coaching, please email coachlouise@mac.com I am here to serve you. My greatest joy is watching others blossom, and making their dreams come true.
Seven Days before Christmas and our hearts are filled with grief and compassion from the Sandy Hook Elementary School. We ask why did this happen? The answer may never be understood.
“Where do we go from a world of insanity? Somewhere on the other side of despair.” –T. S. Eliot
With only 7 days left to find the best gift for someone you love, what gift would you choose?
And what if you could not buy something or make something, then what would it be? If you answered love, what would love look like? Or how would you give love? If you answered joy, how would you give joy? If you choose to give wellness, how would you give wellness? If you choose forgiveness, what would you forgive? If you choose kindness, what would you do that was kind? If you choose to do something, what would you do? If you told them all the ways you appreciate them, what do you appreciate? If you told them all their qualities, what would there qualities be? If you choose to be a happier person to be around, how would you be happier? If you choose to give up an addiction, how would you do that? If you choose to be more peaceful, what would that look like? If you choose to be less stressful, how would you accomplish that? If you choose to recite a poem, what poem would you choose? If you choose to sing a song, what song would you sing? If you choose to be more honest, how would you be more honest? If you told them all the ways you love them, what are the ways?
All these gift are free, and the most precious to us. They are the gifts we value the most, the gifts that touch our heart.
These gifts are also the best gifts to give yourself. You are more valuable than you realize.
Usually we tell children they have 25 days until Christmas to be good because Santa Clause is coming to town. As I write this how interesting that this year there is an adult story which says there is only 20 days until the end of the Mayan Calendar. December 21, 2012. Which means a shifting, an ascension into a higher dimension. What many believe to be a new birth of our planet.
So, now we are asked “how have you raised your vibration to be a match for a new world?”
In America the elections definitely had a way of throwing many off base with the political barbs soliciting fear and hatred. This reminded me of a childhood saying my mother taught me. “Oh what webs we weave when we practice to deceive”. The webs of deception which were presented by all sides.
It feels like a breath of fresh air just to have the election over. Yet the grief, anger and major concern for many still linger.
Perhaps the answer is to give more energy in trusting in this belief that there is going to be an energy shift, a dramatic upgrade in human consciousness in just 20 days. It is hard to believe in the invisible, wise-tales, myths, or indigenous wisdom when we have moved so far away from being in touch with the energy of the universe or simply nature, where spirit resides.
It is far easier to get caught in the web of life such as the election campaigns and everyday drama.
Raising ones vibration takes a conscious effort. You can raise your vibration in the blink of an eye, or it can take years. It all depends on one vital question: how much can you love? How wide can you open your heart?
Here are five things you can do to upgrade your vibration and join in the collective hope for a better world.
1.Take a walk in nature and listen. Nature is always talking.
2.Become an observer of your thought, feelings and emotions. If they are negative, afraid or unloving, erase and replace with love.
3.Look in the mirror and say I love you. Loving ourselves is the best place to start.
4.Send love to others, tell them you love them.
5. Use the wisdom of Saint Francis of Assisi in his famous prayer.
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen
Marianne Williamson said, “ Hatred itself is the cancer that threatens the survival of the species. The only antidote is spiritual. The only medicine is love.”
May we examine any flavor of hatred: dislike, distrust, negativity, fault finding, judgment, anger, resentment, accusations, jealousy, blame, shame, guilt and release these feeling to a higher intelligence. Like a child blowing all his or her feelings in to a balloon and then letting it go into the sky.
Of course it could be that not one thing changes in 20 days. But what if just changing the energy in us made a difference. I think that is worth the effort. Please join me.
I send you love, Coach Louise Rouse www.planetarycoach.com
There is so much to be thankful for in the course of a day.
Gratitude is another way for connecting to God. Like love to a soul, gratitude is your love thank you back to God. Just like prayer our “thanksgivings” create a bond, a connected Invisible relationship with God inside and out. Gratitude is a high vibration frequency and countless long-term studies have demonstrated that gratitude is highly effective in obtaining a positive, appreciative attitude. A thankful heart contributes to greater success in everything: your relationships, work, health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and even a faster recovery from surgery.
Practicing gratitude takes an inner commitment. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves permission to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.
Are you aware that when you are feeling blue, just by listing 20 things you are grateful for, you will start feeling better? It is true because you change your perception.
Remember that gratitude isn’t just an optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are covered up and ignored. It’s more a matter that what we focus on creates the outcome of how we feel inside. Our pain body always wants attention, like a bad habit that won’t go away. Until we train it differently. There are numerous mind/body tools in the Planetary Coaching program for overcoming your pain body. But for now, think of how many things there are to be grateful for.
Like the colors of a sunset across the sky.
The beauty of a lake near by.
Children laughing.
A puppy playing.
A call from a friend.
The stars in the sky.
Trees in a forest.
A warm fire to stand by on a cold night.
Flowers in the garden.
Or watching a bird soar in the sky
Since gratitude raises your vibration, it plays a remarkable role in your spiritual evolution.
What’s on your list to be grateful for? Remember, your list is a beautiful GIFT to God.
For my list, I will start with you. Beautiful divine magnificent you. Thank you for reading, for being, for your feedback and support. May this holiday be filled with joy. Coach Louise
Worldscope is a vision I started writing about 10 years ago from observing the intensity of thoughts and feelings not only effecting peoples lives, but the planet as well. Timing has its own way of showing us that the universe is not separate from us but very connected to us. Every time I thought I was going to share this idea something came up, until now.
Our planet’s natural disasters can makes us feel un-empowered and afraid. We long to help. We use affirmations for welcoming our personal change, but have we ever thought our words and feelings might be affecting the earth? Thought is very cumulative; it’s not instantaneous all the time when it is joined with conflicting collective thoughts especially with earth changes. However just a few people can influence many.
Our collective thoughts have been manifesting since time began. We have evolved through the centuries to accept an understanding of how our mind works. It has been known and hidden and unhidden many times. Now a transitional quantum shift of knowledge is moving particle thoughts into waves of feeling. What was hidden has once again been uncovered. That we are extra-ordinary and our feelings/emotions are powerful. Like an answered prayer hope is returning to earth. We have many great minds to thank and Louise Hays is one of them.
Thirty years ago, I was introduced to Louise Hays’ book “You Can Heal Your Life”. Through the years, every time I go into a used bookstore I always look for her same book to have more on hand. I’ve given hundreds of these books away: I have given them to friends, to clients, left them in hospitals and in waiting rooms. I am so committed and dedicated to her work. Louise Hays is a woman who teaches the power of Divine Love.
Worldscope was inspired from my passion for Louise Hays book “You Can Heal Your Life”. In her book she listed illnesses and then gave a probable cause for each illness, and then a solution.
I have expanded her concept to healing the earth. I would also like to remind you that for prayer to work it must be clothed with genuine feeling/emotion. Feel the prayer affirmation all the way from your head to your toes. Take a deep breath. Then repeat it once again, this time feeling Divine Love joining with you in your desired world prayer all the way from the heavens down to every cell in your body and then traveling through your toes down deep into mother earth. Just like when we take wondrous walks in nature it feels good to be connected with Mother Earth. Open your heart and send mother earth love. Feel gratitude, that all is well.
Even when life seems very unsettled and in trouble I encourage you to be calm in the eye of the storm. When we are calm and centered we can see, hear, and feel what right action to take.
Worldscope: Our collective thoughts and emotions can either cause suffering or healing.
“The pilgrimage is a process by which we change what we think and transform who we are. Prayer is the pilgrim’s walking stick.” Marianne Williamson
We are connected to the earth, the earth hears us and feel us.
Worldscope: How to reduce disruptive world events.
World Event -Earthquake
Probable Cause- Feeling unstable, like your world is cracking and it’s not able to support you. Too much to do.
World Prayer- I am safe, balanced, whole and complete
World Event- Polar Shift
Probable cause- A feeling like there is a weight on your shoulders. You can’t hold everything together, like your life is slipping away from you, turning up side down.
World Prayer - I am supported everything is ok. I am safe, whole and complete. I turn fear into faith.
World Event -Ice Age
Probable cause -The warmth, the love is missing out of your life. Your passion is weak. It feels like love melted away.
World Prayer -I am love. Love is all around me. I am passionate, and I feel my heart opening up, to receive and give love.
World Event-Economic Crisis
Probable Cause- Not enough. Fear of needing more, distrust, a belief in scarcity.
World Prayer- I am enough. I have everything I need. I trust the process, and all is well.
World Event -Tornado
Probable Cause -Life is moving too fast, caught in a whirlwind like you are spinning out of control
World Prayer- Everything is ok, I am safe and at peace. I trust the process of life. I am calm, and serene.
World Event -Hurricane
Probable Cause -Feeling rushed, can’t get everything done, confused. To many thoughts /ideas coming in opposite directions. Fear stirring in the wind
World Prayer -I have plenty of time. I am doing the best I can, I let go and trust the process of life. I am safe.
World Event -Tsunami
Feeling wiped out, crushed, overwhelmed, swept away.
Every day life gets better. I take one day at a time, and all is well. My life is renewed as I fill my love cup
World Event- Floods
Probable Cause -Feeling flooded with information and ideas. Not enough time. Drowning in a sea of overwhelm.
World Prayer -Everything is working out for the best. I am relaxed. I see and hear what best serves me. I let go, and I am okay.
World Event- Global Warming
Probable Cause- Feeling unsafe, like the world is drying up and you’re not enough. Like your oxygen supply is ending.
World Prayer-I am enough just being who I am. My juices of creativity, life, and passion are abundant. I am loved. I am safe.
World Event -Volcano
Probable Cause -Inner eruptions, too much pressure, anger inside. Distrust.
World Prayer - I let go. All is well. I forgive, and release and trust the process of life.
World Event -War
Probable Cause- Not safe, untrusting, not enough, control; scarcity, judgement, greed, I am smarter than ?
World Prayer - There is enough for everyone. We are safe. There is always enough for all. I am love I am loved, I send love to all. All is good.
World Event- Comet Crash
Probable Cause- Not in control, afraid of the future. Fear is bigger than you. Feels like the world is crashing in on us.
World Prayer – LOVE is greater than fear. I am safe; All is well in my world.
World Event- Death
Probable Cause-Fear of loss; never seeing again. The end of life, forever.
World Prayer-Nothing ever dies, Love feels love. Love is always alive, transforming, growing, evolving, and connecting with Love.
World Event- Greed, Power
Probable Cause-Afraid of being hurt. Control, feeling not worthy or good enough
World Prayer – Everyone is unique, magnificent and worthy, all are forgiven all are loved
World Event- Uncontrolled Fires
Probabale Cause- Unspoken or unconscious anger,Burning emotion inside your body. Rage, Outward anger
Feel like everything you do just goes up in smoke. What’s the use attitude?
World Prayer- I am peace. I let go and hand my problems over to God. As I forgive others I forgive myself.
As you are reading this list what do you notice?
When you read the probable [mental] cause did it seem true to you? If not, what thoughts do you think contribute to these world events? What affirmative world prayer would you use?
Or did you feel called to take an action, do something?
Feeling emotional love, forgiveness and peace is a powerful action.
Coach Louise Rouse copyright2012, www.planetarycoach.com 541-821-6213, P.S.
"Coach Louise is a fabulous grief expert. She is first-hand experienced realizing loss sometimes can come suddenly. Her mission is to help change the perception on grief--"that nothing ever dies, only transforms." Her attitude, experience and passion in this well needed work will help you grow through your grief process in less time than it takes many to go through this journey alone. Coach Louise is a woman who "has been there, done that and wore the tee shirt" and will help you accelerate the grief process in a unique way she has come to understand. Why let grief keep you locked up when there is the best grief expert available to you. Coach Louise is exceptionally passionate, caring and sensitive to help you deal with your grief! Why look at the rest when you can have the best: Coach Louise!"
If you feel stuck, or your mind cannot stop thinking negative thoughts, hire a Planetary Coach™ to help guide you through the process of loss. 
